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On Love

Only – but this is rare – 
When a beloved hand is laid in ours, 
When jaded with rush and glare, 
Of the interminable hours,
Our eyes can in another’s eyes read clear,
When in our world-deafened ear
Is by the tones of a loved voice caressed – 
A bolt is shot back somewhere in our breast,
And a lost pulse of feeling stirs again;
The eye sinks inward, and the heart lies plain,
And what we mean, we say, and we would, we know.
A man becomes aware of his life’s flow.
Matthew Arnold, The Buried Life 
 
 

 

When he shall die
Take him and cut him out into stars
And he shall make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night,
And pay no worship to the garish sun.

Wm. Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, 
quoted by Bobby Kennedy in memory of his slain brother, John.
 
The beloved is already in our being, as thirst and “otherness.”  Being is eroticism.  Inspiration is that strange 
voice that takes man out of himself to be every thing that he is, everything that he desires; another body, 
another being.   Beyond, outside of me, in the green and gold thicket, among the tremulous branches, 
sings the unknown.  It calls to me.
Octavio Paz
A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.
Mohandas K. Gandhi
 

Love is a choice -- not simply or necessarily a rational choice,
but rather a willingness to be present to others without pretense or guile.

Carter Heyward, Our Passion for Justice (1984)


...Breaking up is hard to do.

Neal Sedaka & Howard Greenfield (1962)
Rock 'n' Roll, in a rare moment of  understatement, and in its  most accurate truth.
 

... I wonder why passion's always half impossibility
but lovers that we lose we never dare forget
we visit them in mourning in December and in May
in the graveyard of St. Mary's of Regret"

Susan Werner, St. Mary's of Regret
encountered on Carolyn Andre's great website
 

For those who may be hurting over lost love:
Don't cry because it is over... smile because it happened."

Gabriel Garcia Marquez


Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding.

Diane Arbus

 



The first duty of love is to listen.

Paul Tillich
 

Nobody out there can love you the way you want to be loved.  Only you can do that.

John-Roger
 

Love is the music, sex is only the instrument.

Isabelle Allende
 

The sexual organs are the most sensitive organs of the human being.
They are not diplomats. They tell the truth.

Isaac Bashevis Singer

No more words.  In the name of this place we
drink in with our breathing, stay quiet like a flower.
So the nightbirds will start singing.

Jalaluddin Rumi


 Most marriages recognize this paradox: Passion destroys passion; we want what puts an end to wanting what we want.

 John Fowles  

    

The truth [is] that there is only one terminal dignity—love.
And the story of a love is not important—what is important is that one is capable of love.
It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.

Helen Hayes

  

Where love rules, there is no will to power;
and where power predominates, there love is lacking.
The one is the shadow of the other.

Carl Jung


To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.

David Viscott


 It is not love, but lack of love, which is blind.

Glenway Wescott
 

 
It is an ancient metaphysical law that says that we never leave any situation 
that causes us discomfort [or is a problem] until we learn to love it or at least 
to see love at work in it.
Quoted by Eleanor Futscher

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive...

Anais Nin
 

The essence of being human, is that one does not seek perfection, that one is sometimes willing to 
commit sins for the sake of loyalty, that one does not push asceticism to the point where it makes 
friendly intercourse impossible, and that one is prepared in the end to be defeated and broken up 
by life, which is the inevitable price of fastening one’s love upon other human individuals.

George Orwell, Reflections on Gandhi


Sex:
the pleasure is momentary,
the position ridiculous,
and the expense damnable.

Lord Chesterfield
 

He moved his lips about her ears and neck as though in thirsting search of an erogenous zone. 
A waste of time, he knew from experience.  Erogenous zones were either everywhere or nowhere.

Joseph Heller

 


On Education - Legal or Otherwise

 

At school you are not engaged so much in acquiring knowledge as in making mental efforts under criticism. 
You go to a great school not so much for knowledge as for arts or habits; for the art of expression, for 
the art of entering quickly into another's thoughts, for the art of assuming at a moment's notice a new 
intellectual position, for the habit of submitting to censure and refutation, for the art of indicating assent 
or dissent in graduated terms, for the habit of regarding minute points of accuracy, for the art of working 
out what is possible in a given time, for taste, for discrimination, for mental courage and mental soberness.

Monrad G. Paulsen, Mental Efforts Under Criticism
in his final statement to the University of Virginia law faculty as its dean, January 12, 1976.
He, in turn, draws the quote from an 18th Century British schoolmaster.

Thanks to Steve Pepper for introducing me to this quote.

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In the art of teaching, we recognize that ideas and insights need to cook over a period of time.  
Sometimes the student who is least articulate about expressing the ideas is in fact the one who is absorbing 
and processing them most deeply.  This applies as well to our own private learning of our art form; the 
areas in which we feel most stuck and most incompetent may be our richest gold mine of developing 
material. The use of silence in teaching then becomes very powerful.

Stephen Nachmanovitch,  Free Play: Improvisation in Art and Life  (1990)
 

Learning is not the accumulation of scraps of knowledge.  It is growth, where every act of knowledge 
develops the learner….
Husserl, interpreted by Quentin Lauer

In a society excessively devoted to the bottom line – what the philosopher William James called the “cash value” 
of ideas – intellectuals play a vital role in offering a more elevated approach to democratic debate.  Through 
their teaching and writing, they free us from the tyranny of short-sightedness by enlarging our understanding of historical and social context.  They provide us with an alternative to a culture of celebrity and sound bites.

James O. Freedman, Liberal Education & the Public Interest
 


The task of the modern educator is not to cut down jungles but to irrigate deserts. 

C. S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man (1947).  from Doug Linder's  wonderful site.

 

The normal adult never troubles his head about the space-time problems.  Everything there is to be 
thought about, in his opinion, has already been done in early childhood.  I, on the contrary, developed 
so slowly that I only began to wonder about space and time when I was already grown up.

Albert Einstein

 

 

 

 

 

We often make the mistake of confusing education with training, when in fact these are very different 
activities.  Training is for the purpose of passing on specific information necessary to perform a 
specialized activity.  Education is the building of the person.  To educe means to draw out or evoke 
that which is latent; education then means drawing out the person’s latent capacities for understanding 
and living, not stuffing a (passive) person full of preconceived knowledge.  Education must tap into 
the close relationship between play and exploration; there must be permission to explore and express.  
There must be validation of the exploratory spirit, which by definition takes us out of the tried, 
the tested, and the homogeneous.

Stephen Nachmanovitch,  Free Play: Improvisation in Art and Life  (1990)

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For good teaching rests neither in accumulating a shelfful of knowledge nor in developing a repertoire of skills. In the end, good teaching lies in a willingness to attend and care for what happens in our students, ourselves, and the space between us. Good teaching is a certain kind of stance, I think. It is a stance of receptivity, of attunement, of listening.

 Laurent A. Daloz , Effective Teaching and Mentoring


Good judgment comes from experience.  Experience comes from bad judgment. 

Tom Watson, former IBM  CEO

 

We tend to feel a little queasy whenever someone reads a prepared speech – even a very good one – instead 
of talking directly to us. If you are giving a public talk, it is fine to plan what you might say in order to sharpen 
your awareness, but when you arrive, throw away your plans and relate, in real time, to the people in the room.
In many schools, teaching is expected to follow syllabi that lay out what students will learn, as well as when 
and how they will learn it. But in a real classroom, whether kindergarten, graduate school, or the school of life,
there are live people with personal needs and knowledge.  A particular tap in this direction will shift this person’s perspective;
after today’s discussion you know that this reading will be good to assign, based on what seems like the natural flow to the next step.  You cannot play these things.  You have to teach each person, each class group, and each moment
as a particular case that calls out for particular handling.  Planning an agenda of learning without knowing
who is going to be there, what their strengths and weaknesses are, how they interact, prevents surprises and prevents learning.
The teacher’s art is to connect, in real time, the living bodies of the students with the living body of the knowledge.

Steven Nachmanovitch, Free Play: Improvisation in Life and Art
 

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JLW Comment on the following: 'Casner and Leach' , from which the folliwng is dawn, was far
and away the most widely adopted Property casebook during my years as a law student (and 
was assigned to my class at Penn); and was the first book I adopted as a Property teacher in 1972.

While in tone, the quote reflects the vintage of its authors and some classic Harvard condescension, 
and the summary is subject to some other minor criticism or augmentation. it remains 
perhaps the best short summary of lawyerly qualities I've seen
. My semi-famous older brother 
Bart, see infra, was an Estate Planning student of Casner's at Harvard. He speaks very well of the 
course, noting with a chuckle Casner's opening of the last class session of the course, when 
Casner reportedly said words to the effect of:

  • You have only 50 minutes more of my time for  no fee. Responses to questions after those 50 minutes will be charged at my normal rate of $175/hour!   (I'm not sure I've got the fee-- in early 1960s dollars -- correct; and surely the students had already paid quite a fee for his time!)

  • Legal education has made some progress since that comment!

    And now let Casner & Leach speak for themselves:

     

    "The Basic Qualities of a Good Lawyer "

    The best way to describe a good lawyer in a phrase is to call him or her a professional in versatility. 
    This is another way of saying that a good lawyer has acquired certain abilities which allow him or her 
    to operate effectively in any enterprise, familiar or unfamiliar, to diagnose its difficulties, and to 
    contribute substantially to solution of the problems. A lawyer's usual field of operation is one in 
    which the legal ingredient is large, and to this the lawyer brings professional knowledge as well as 
    the basic abilities; but the fact that the non-legal ingredient is frequently dominant and further the fact 
    that the situation in which the lawyer's help is solicited are many and varied give the lawyer the habit 
    of tackling new problems with confidence and skill, regardless of their nature.

    Our listing of the basic qualities is the following:

    1. Fact consciousness. An insistence on getting the facts, checking their accuracy, and sloughing 
      off the element of conclusion and opinion.
    2. A sense of relevance. The capacity to recognize what is relevant to the issue at hand and to cut 
      away irrelevant facts, opinions, and emotions which can cloud the issue.
    3. Comprehensiveness. The capacity to see all sides of the problem, all factors that bear upon it, 
      and all possible ways of approaching it.
    4. Foresight. The capacity to take the long view, to anticipate remote and collateral consequences, 
      to look several moves ahead in the particular chess game that is being played.
    5. Lingual sophistication. An immunity to being fooled by words and catch phrases; a refusal to 
      accept verbal solutions which merely conceal the problem.
    6. Precision and persuasiveness of speech. The mastery of language which involves (a) The ability 
      to state exactly what one means, no more and no less, and (b) the ability to reach others with 
      one's own thought, to create in their minds the picture that is one's own.
    7. And finally, pervading all the rest, and possibly the only one that is really basic: self-discipline in habits of thoroughness, and abhorrence of superficiality and approximation.

    These are not qualities which spring naturally from family background plus a liberal arts education. 
    You will be shocked at your deficiencies in all of them…. But be not dismayed, for the qualities can 
    be acquired and developed…. The important thing is that you realize that this is what [your legal 
    education] is striving for -- this, even more than "teaching law."

    Beyond this list of rather earthy qualities, … lie insight, ingenuity, imagination and judgment -- naïve 
    qualities which distinguish the artist from the artisan, genius from competence. And above all 
    stands character -- that indispensable resource in a profession which is charged with maintaining 
    equal justice under law….

    No specific reference is made above to social consciousness as a basic quality of a lawyer. The issue is 
    one of relevance. If a member of the bar litigates the validity of a clause in a deed which restricts the use 
    of land without considering the consequences to the community of this type of restriction, the lawyer 
    will be giving the client very bad representation. On the other hand, if the lawyer draws a will for 
    a Rockefeller, or cross-examines a lying witness in a tort case, while reflecting on the inequalities of 
    the distribution of wealth, the lawyer is not likely to do the best job of which he is capable.

    James Casner and W. Barton Leach, Cases and Text on Property 1-4 (3rd Ed 1984): The Study of the Law of Property.

     

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         I want to believe -- and so do you -- in a complete, transcendent,
         and immanent set of propositions about right and wrong, findable
         rules that authoritatively and unambiguously direct us how to live
         righteously. I want to believe -- and so do you -- in no such thing,
         but rather that we are wholly free, not only to choose for ourselves
         what we ought to do, but to decide for ourselves, individually and
         as a species, what we ought to do. What we want, Heaven help us, is
         simultaneously to be perfectly ruled and perfectly free, that is, at
         the same time to discover the right and the good and to create it.
    
          Arthur A. Leff, Unspeakable Ethics, Unnatural Law 
          1979 Duke Law Review 1229

     

     

     

    A page of history is worth a volume of logic.
    Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

    No one has earned the right to intellectual ambition until they have learned to lay their course by a star 
    which they have never seen – to dig by the divining rod for springs which they may never reach.  In saying 
    this I point to that which will make your study heroic.  For I say to you in all sadness of conviction, that to 
    think great thoughts you must be heroes as well as idealists.  Only when you have worked alone – when you 
    have felt all around you a black gulf of solitude more isolating than that which surrounds the dying, and in 
    hope and in despair have trusted to your own unshaken will – then only will you have achieved.  Thus only 
    can you gain the secret isolated joy of the thinker, who knows that, a hundred years after they are dead and 
    forgotten, people who have never heard of them will be moving to the measure of their thought – the subtle 
    rapture of a postponed power, which the world knows not because it has no external trappings, but which 
    to their prophetic vision is more real than that which commands an army.  And if this joy shall not be yours, 
    still it is only thus that you can know that you have done what it lay in you to do – can say that you have 
    lived, and be ready for the end.

    Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr,  “The Profession of Law,”
    an 1886 speech to Harvard undergraduates  

     

    The life of the law has not been logic: it has been experience.

    The seed of every new growth within its sphere has been a felt necessity.

    The form of continuity has been kept up by reasonings purporting to reduce everything to a logical 
    sequence; but that form is nothing but the evening dress which the new-comer puts on to make itself 
    presentable according to conventional requirements. The important phenomenon is the man underneath 
    it, not the coat; the justice and reasonableness of a decision, not its consistency with previously held 
    views. No one will every have a truly philosophic mastery over the law who does not habitually consider 
    the forces outside of it which have made it what it is.

    Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. (1880)

     

     
     
     
     
    Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one. 
    Malcolm S. Forbes
     
     
    Whether you think you can or can't, you're right.
    Henry Ford
    
    
    I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, 
    and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.
    Galileo Galilei
     
     
    I could prove God statistically. 
    
    George Gallup
    
     
    One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.
    
    Andre Gide
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    You know the world's gone mad when the best rapper is a white guy, the best golfer is a black guy, 
    the Swiss hold the America's Cup, France is accusing the USA of arrogance and the Germans don't 
    want to go to war !"  

    Chris Rock, March, 2003

     
    Happiness is a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you will sit 
    down quietly, may alight upon you." 
    Nathaniel Hawthorne
     
     
     
    Well, look at an animal, a cat, a dog, or a bird, or one of those beautiful great beasts in the zoo, a puma or 
    a giraffe.  You can't help seeing that all of them are right.  They're never in any embarrassment.  They 
    always know what to do and how to behave themselves.  They don't flatter and they don't pretend. They 
    are as they are,  like stones or flowers or stars in the sky. 
    Hermann Hesse
    
    
    You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.
    Eric Hoffer
    

    The annals of art and science are full of stories of men and women who, desperately stuck on an enigma, have 
    worked until they reached their wit’s end, and then suddenly made their longed-for creative leap or synthesis 
    while doing errands or dreaming. The ripening takes place when their attention is directed elsewhere.

    Insights and breakthroughs often come during periods of pause or refreshments after great labors.  There is a preparatory period of accumulating data, followed by some essential in the same vein that we learn to swim in 
    winter and skate in summer.  We learn that which we do not concentrate on, the part that has been exercised 
    and trained in the past but that is now lying fallow.  Not doing can sometimes be more productive than doing.

    Stephen Nachmanovitch, Free Play: Improvisation in Art and Life

     

    A professor is one who talks in someone else’s sleep. 
    W. H. Auden

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    Miscellaneous Short Quotes



    You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
    Mohandas Karamchand (Mahatma) Gandhi

    There is more to life than increasing its speed. 
    Gandhi
    
     An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
    Gandhi
     
    
    The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend. 
    
    Abraham Lincoln 
    

    There’s many a slip twixt the cup and the lip.
    Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanac,
    wisdom often quoted by Morris J. Winokur

     

    As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, 
    they are not certain; and as far as they are certain, 
    they do not refer to reality.
    Albert Einstein
    
    
    
    
    Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity,  
    and I'm not sure about the former. 
    
    Albert Einstein
     
    We should take care not to make the intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality.
    
    Albert Einstein, Out of My Later Years, 1950

     

     

    
    The only road to strength is through vulnerability.
    Stephen Nachmanovitch, in Free Play (1990) 
    

    Fame is a vapor, popularity is an accident and money takes wings. All that endures is character.  Don't 
    cry for me when I go. You'll hold me back on my journey. How deep is my thought? So deep that it 
    can be mistaken for being cold and distant."

    Forrest Sanford


    He’s not prolific, he’s incontinent.

    David Brooks, New York Times Book Review, January 13, 2002; 
    reviewing Hon. Richard Posner’s Public Intellectuals: A Study of Decline,
    rating and applying ‘economic analysis’ to explain the dearth of true intellectuals’
    in postmodern America, and their propensity toward  ‘crude  rationicination’.

    Either he's dead or my watch has stopped.

    Groucho Marx
     

    They sicken of the calm, who know the storm.

    Dorothy Parker


    There is nothing so absurd but some philosopher has said it.

    Cicero

     

     

    ... and some Yogi Berra classics:

    "It's like deja vu all over again."

    "Baseball is ninety percent mental. The other half is physical."

    "Nobody goes there anymore because it's too crowded."

    "So I'm ugly. I never saw anyone hit with his face."

    "Take it with a grin of salt."

    "The game's isn't over until it's over."

    "The towels were so thick there I could hardly close my suitcase."

    "You can observe a lot just by watching."

    "When you come to a fork in the road, take it."

    "I never said most of the things I said."